If you're not interested in community and communication, I'd suggest just ignoring this thread.
I believe this is a critical time for Hawken, and we are probably going to see an influx of new players sometime in the near future. At this time, I really want Hawken to succeed, and so I come to you all with a proposal that we all work on being purposefully welcoming on the forums and in-game. This is stuff that extends far beyond Hawken, and I think it may serve us very well.
Here's the point: We want to communicate to new players in a way that is welcoming.
These are a few practical communication techniques I've picked up over the years, and I'd love to hear others' suggestions as well.
When you have an objection, put the positive part after the "but."
We all do this. We want to soften our disagreement by putting a compliment first.
That's a great idea, but I don't think it will work.
The problem is, when someone takes the risk to propose a new idea, they're just waiting for the negative comments, and they will usually gloss over anything that comes before the negative. This means you haven't softened your objection at all. If you want to communicate both your disagreement and also be welcoming, just flip the sentence around.
I don't think it will work, but that's a great idea.
Trust me. This works.
When you're about to get on a soapbox, just stop and cut that part out.
This one is hard to resist. Someone mentions one little thing that we are passionate about, and we grab the thread by the throat and won't let go. I just ran across a topic today where I was about to write
What I like best about this idea is having unique weapons for each mech. I'm really, really uninterested in balance (having never seen it in a game), but I'm very interested in seeing some provocative asymmetry.
I'm very passionate about game design and how I believe balance is both impossible to attain and uninteresting to play. However, bringing it up would be hijacking the thread and be really rude to the OP. I caught myself before posting and instead wrote
What I like best about this idea is having unique weapons for each mech. I'm very interested in seeing some provocative asymmetry.
And the thread wasn't hijacked.
When you want to lend weight to your opinion, add personal stories instead.
Oh, man. This one gets my goat, mostly because I used to do it ALL THE TIME. Not just on forums, but at work, in my home life, with friends... It's amazing that anyone could stand me. It starts with your opinion.
The Sharpshooter is a terrible class.
And then someone disagrees.
Sharpshooter is one of the best classes for high level play.
And you want to just trump that other opinion with your credentials.
Look. I've been playing since alpha, and I consistently run with the top players...
And that's just demeaning to the other person. It tells the other person that you believe they don't have the right to an opinion and really sours the tone of the conversation. It's easy to do, but it's also really easy to avoid. Just add personal stories instead. Tell about the experience you've had and how it led you to think the way you do. This actually lends way more weight to your opinion, and more importantly, it's respectful. In some circles, whipping out your credentials actually hurts your credibility, and it's great to learn to avoid that land mine.
If you make a communication mistake, just admit it.
I'm going to make mistakes that aren't welcoming. You're going to make mistakes that aren't welcoming. The best thing we can do is just acknowledge the mistake. It makes you look mature, confident, and most importantly, it let's the offended person know we care about their feelings. It doesn't have to be elaborate. A simple admission can make a world of difference.
That came off harsher than I intended.
Thoughts? Other suggestions?